For years I hated that statement. I refused to live by that seemingly defeatist phrase. I thought, “No! I can change whatever needs to be changed in order to make my own path! Fix the issue and never give up!” Then, I became a mother. Our daughter, Abby, is a 9-year-old cutie pie who was born with a congenital, neurological brain defect called Partial Agenesis of the Corpus Callosum and was given the subsequent diagnosis of Severe Autism at 2 1/2. She is still nonverbal. She is still in diapers. Can you imagine what it is like to never hear one word from your child? To never know if she is in pain or when she is feeling ill? I knew she was not in control of her actions or behaviors. Even worse, I knew there was nothing I could do about it. I cannot “fix” her brain.  I am left to make daily decisions that have completely changed my outlook on the world around me. I have found that “in acceptance lieth peace”. (Hannah Hurnard) As we welcome the New Year, my hope is that if you are living with a situation that you cannot change that you find peace in acceptance. If there is something in your life that you can do something about, do it! Make the change that needs to be made in order to discover your best path. Find balance in your daily life. Start to journal. Walk around the block, then two blocks, then more. Go to lunch with friends who fill you up every month. Read a magazine. (This is a good start!) Abby has taught me to calm down, assess what I can and cannot do with and for her, and learn to love who she is in any given moment. Our Abby is bright and beautiful. She is the light of our lives. And, even though we have never heard her say one word, we continue to see growth and development in her. She is trying hard to learn and is taking in on herself to do so.  I have a feeling “it is what it is” does not sit right with her and if that is one way she is like her mama, I couldn’t be more proud. Happy New Year, readers! I’m excited to welcome 2020 with you all. May what brings you joy surround you this year and in the years to come.